3. Fix what you’re doing
You may always get a little nervous before public speaking. But the more you talk in front of other people, the less anxiety you will feel. It’s all about practice. “You’ll gain confidence, and you’ll gain skills to be able to handle those situations,” Wiser says. Work yourself up gradually. If you have an intense fear of performing the piano, try playing in front of a few friends or colleagues before you launch yourself onto a stage in front of an audience of ten thousand. Speechmaster workshops and assertiveness training courses can also help you develop certain social skills.
Wiser adds that it’s important not to let a fit of nerves stop you from being social, because humans needs regular contact with others. “If we’re cut off from others, it doesn’t work. We’re more prone to a whole host of problems.” Social isolation is linked to depression, emotional stress and increased risk of coronary heart disease and mortality.
“Everyone, from time to time, thinks, I don’t really want to go to that party. But if you start doing that too much, then that anxiety is just going to increase,” Wiser says. If, on the other hand, you apply these techniques to your physical symptoms, your thoughts and your behavior, you have a real chance of reducing your anxiety in social situations.