3. Don’t underestimate your ability to bounce back
We find our way to happiness even when things aren’t working out the way we want, according to research by Karim S. Kassam, PhD, assistant professor at Carnegie Mellon, published in Psychological Science last year. “Our research shows that people tend to get over negative events much faster than they expect.” The theory is that we have an emotional immune system—much like our physiological one—that fends off negative emotions.
Can we boost this emotional immune response? The research has yet to provide a conclusive answer, Kassam says. One thing we do know, however, is that you get over negative emotions quicker when you’re in a situation that you can’t do anything to change.