1. Ask her what she likes, and do your homework
But do this before getting down to it, says registered psychologist and regular Best Health contributor Dr. Cheryl Fraser. “People are too vulnerable when they’re in the middle of being intimate.” As well, take time the next day— when the pressure is off—to ask how she enjoyed it and what was fun. Talk together about what you want to try next time.
It’s very important that you ask your partner if she’s happy with the sex the two of you are having, says psychologist and sex therapist Perry Sirota. Women don’t always feel comfortable volunteering that information.
Whatever you do, guys, do not get your tips from X-rated films or highly sexed TV shows. Too often they’re just plain wrong and give misinformation, says Fraser. But do invest in a book about female sexuality and how to please a woman.