The myth: “If love is meant to happen, it’ll happen.”
Almost nothing good in life happens by chance, yet many of us leave “finding” a life partner up to fate.
The truth: Love is learned. “Where else in life would you ever take that approach? Would you think, ‘Oh well, if learning French is meant to happen, it will just happen?” asks Diana Kirschner, a psychologist in New York City and author of Love in 90 Days: The Essential Guide to Finding Your Own True Love. Love is an important activity that takes attention and intention, she adds. “Sure chemistry between two people ‘happens.’ But lasting love has to be worked on, nurtured and allowed to grow. And of course, you learn by making mistakes.”