The myth: “If the sex fades, so does the love.”
Johnson says that so much emphasis in adult love is placed on sex. “We think love is sex.”
The truth: Love is about way more than the sex. It is possible to have a long-term relationship that is still wildly passionate, but it is rare, says Johnson. You have to work at sex because it is novelty that nourishes the infatuation and obsession that underscore new relationships. Those feelings are not love. Once they fade, if a deeper emotional connection is there, even better sex is possible, according to Johnson. She says research shows people who have sex the most — and enjoy it the most — are long-term married couples.