How to fix the damage If asked at the altar, most men and women would state that monogamy in marriage is a must, and that an affair is a deal breaker. Until it happens to them. In reality, more than half of couples who experience an affair stay together. Rather than break up, those couples make a new deal, and some marriages end up stronger for the experience. If your … [Read more...] about How to Fix Your Relationship After an Affair
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Red wine can boost sexual desire Sexual desire was higher in women who drank red wine moderately, compared to those who drank other alcohol or none, according to an Italian study from the University of Florence. It’s believed the antioxidants improve blood flow to erectile tissue, enhancing arousal. … [Read more...] about Eating These 5 Surprising Foods Could Boost Your Sex Drive
Maybe you failed, for whatever reason, to invite one of your best friends for lunch with the rest of the gang, and you’ve been getting the cold shoulder ever since. Or maybe you and your sister-in-law are on the outs because you overstepped and criticized her parenting methods. Whatever the offence, there’s a right way and a wrong way to apologize. Offering an apology that is … [Read more...] about 5 Key Steps For a Sincere Apology
Ah, true love. It’s the stuff of sonnets and pop songs; it launched a thousand ships (and a thousand Katherine Heigl movies). And, according to recent research, it can also lead you to gain weight. A study in the journal Obesity sought to establish a link between relationship status and body mass index. Its results are bad news for everyone but the commitment-phobic: After … [Read more...] about Is Your Partner Making You Gain Weight?
First comes love, then comes marriage, then come a few years of satisfying sexuality. Then the sex slows—and sometimes even stops. Your husband turns away from you in bed. You lie next to him, wanting him still, wondering if this is normal. Time passes. Other men tempt you. You consider leaving, but you choose to stay…. He is still your best friend, and in most ways the … [Read more...] about Is a Sexless Marriage Okay?
Could you or your partner ever be unfaithful? Research suggests that anywhere between 11 and 35 percent of people cheat, and women are doing it more often, too. (Remember that sizzling scene with Diane Lane and Olivier Martinez in the movie Unfaithful?) Yet experts say that strengthening your relationship might be a better use of your time than looking for signs of … [Read more...] about 8 Ways to Cheat-Proof Your Relationship
Q: I know that my husband sometimes watches porn, and I want him to stop. How do I talk to him about it? A: The topic of pornography can polarize a couple and, if you are not careful, create both interpersonal and sexual problems between you. I have worked with women who are threatened and angry if their mate admits indulging. My advice? First, quit taking it personally, … [Read more...] about How to Talk to Your Partner About His Porn Habit
Q. I rarely have an orgasm during intercourse, though I can have one on my own. My husband wants us to have mutual orgasms and I feel like I am letting him down. Am I normal? A. In a word, yes. Research indicates that up to 80 percent of women cannot reach orgasm through intercourse (or do so only occasionally). That means fewer than a quarter of women climax through … [Read more...] about Is It Normal Not to Orgasm From Intercourse?
When it comes to dating, too many potentially epic love affairs end before they start simply because we don’t like how the other person looks. Let me ask you this—if you were blind, would you find him attractive? Many people confuse good looks with attraction, and those are not the same things. We may turn our heads when a handsome man swaggers by, but, all too often, once we … [Read more...] about Can Love Happen Without Physical Chemistry?
There is a big difference between someone smothering you and loving you. Smothering is driven by insecurity and selfishness. Loving is driven by confidence and generosity. Smothering is based on fear and the need to be together. Loving is based on a healthy wish for connection and the enjoyment of shared time. Smothering is about your partner getting what he needs: “I want to … [Read more...] about How to Tell Your Husband He’s Smothering You
He was the love of my life and I just couldn’t let him go. We met at a party, and initially bonded over mutual, albeit very different, problems—his wife had just kicked him out, and my cat had been diagnosed with inoperable cancer. We also shared a passion for music, and spent many evenings singing folk songs to the accompaniment of his guitar. As a medical-doctor-turned-writer … [Read more...] about Confessions of a Facebook Stalker
Being hangry (angry + hungry) is a legitimate state for some people (myself included; just ask my husband!). An Ohio State University study published in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences found low levels of blood sugar can make married people angrier and likelier to lash out at their spouses. The study, done over 21 days, measured blood glucose levels in … [Read more...] about Why Being Hangry is Bad for Your Relationship
Q: I’m married with kids, and have a hectic career. By bedtime, I’m too tired for sex; last month, my husband and I didn’t make love once. What can I do? A: I have two words for you: morning sex. Men love this phrase, while women, well, you probably rolled your eyes on reading that, didn’t you? Fair enough. After all, he wakes up physiologically ready for love—healthy men … [Read more...] about The Benefits of Morning Sex for Busy Couples
1. Cheating is more common than you think Despite near universal disapproval of cheating, it occurs with remarkable regularity. While statistics vary widely, they generally indicate that 20 to 50 percent of men and 15 to 30 percent of women have extramarital affairs. These numbers have remained consistent over time: American researcher Alfred Kinsey found in his 1950s-era … [Read more...] about 5 Things You May Not Know About Cheating and Infidelity
Facebook is an easy way to stay in touch with the old high school gang, share funny photos from your family vacation and wish your wide circle of friends a happy birthday without springing for a stamp. But there’s a downside, too: When you’re sitting behind a computer screen, it’s easy to mishandle conversations on social media and forget that you’re talking to a huge … [Read more...] about 6 Things You Should Never Do on Facebook (and 6 to Always Do)
Eight years ago, Carolyn and Claire Poirier first started noticing some strange behaviors in their mom. Jane began forgetting where she’d parked her car, started driving on the wrong side of the road, and began having mood swings that were totally out of character. It sounds like behaviors that someone quite elderly might exhibit—but Jane was only in her early 50s. In … [Read more...] about How to Care For a Parent With Alzheimer’s
I work from a home office and, for the first time in 10 years, I am lunching alone on weekdays. Both of our kids are now in schools that are far enough away that they won’t be coming home for lunch anymore. I’ll miss their company. I am a big advocate of eating together as often as possible; the benefits of family meals (breakfast, lunch, or dinner all count) are so … [Read more...] about Family Meals: How to Get the Kids Talking More
Grace Cirocco, a relationship and wellness coach who runs marriage retreats for couples, and Janis Abrahms Spring, PhD, a psychologist in Westport, Connecticut, and author of After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful, offer the following advice for women whose partners have had an affair. 1. Don't ask for intimate details You … [Read more...] about After He Cheats: 6 Do’s and Don’ts to Heal Emotionally